Dating Safety Tips

It could be very exciting to meet new people at different times and even go further to be in a dating relationship together. As a matter of fact, it is the main purpose of Chat&Yamo to be the plug between you and your partner for your date. However, it is our commitment to power safe and healthy connections. It is important that when interacting with someone you do not know could also be a huge risk – a lot of caution is required. Whether it is in the exchange of messages or meeting the person physically, please always respect certain basic safety measures. This Dating Safety Tips will help guide our users with basic safety tips to follow in order to stay free of possible risks that could arise.

Online Safety Tips

  • Protect your account
  • Be sure to pick a strong password, and always be careful when logging into your account from a public or shared computer. Chat&Yamo will never send you an email asking for your username and password information — if you receive an email asking for account information, report it immediately.

  • Stay on platform
  • Keep conversations on the Chat&Yamo platform while you’re getting to know someone. Sometimes users with bad intentions often try to move the conversation to text, messaging apps, email, or phone right away. Be careful not to move conversations outside the Chat&Yamo platform as we will try to ensure that a Safe Messages measure is implemented.

  • Protect your personal information
  • Never share personal information, such as your social security number, home or work address, or details about your daily routine (for example, that you go to a certain club every Friday) with people you don’t know. If you are a parent, limit the information that you share about your children on your profile and in early communications. Avoid sharing details such as your children’s names, where they go to school, or their ages or genders.

  • Never send money or share financial information
  • Never send money, especially over wire transfer, even if the person claims to be in an emergency. Wiring money is like sending cash — it’s nearly impossible to reverse the transaction or trace where the money went. Never share information that could be used to access your financial accounts. If another user asks you for money, report it to us immediately.

  • Report suspicious or offensive behaviour
  • You know when someone’s crossed the line and when they do, we want to know about it. Block and report anyone that violates our terms. Here are some examples of violations:

    • Requests for money or donations
    • Underage users
    • Harassment, threats, and offensive messages
    • Inappropriate or harmful behavior during or after meeting in person
    • Fraudulent profiles
    • Spam or solicitation including links to commercial websites or attempts to sell products or services

In-person meetups Safety Tips

  • Set up video calls
  • Scheduling a video chat or voice call can be a great way to ensure that you really vibe and that you feel comfortable moving things to an in-person meetup. Who wants to brave traffic unless they've had the comfort of a great call first?

  • Don’t be in a rush
  • Take your time and get to know the other person before agreeing to meet or chat off Chat&Yamo. Don’t be afraid to ask questions to screen for any red flags or personal dealbreakers. Have and/or pay for your own transportation: We want you to be in control of how you get to and from your date so that you can leave whenever you want. If you’re driving yourself, it’s a good idea to have a backup plan such as a ride-share app or a friend to pick you up.

  • Know your limits
  • Be aware of the effects of drugs or alcohol on you specifically — they can impair your judgment and your alertness. If your date tries to pressure you to use drugs or drink more than you’re comfortable with, hold your ground and end the date. Tell friends and family about your meeting: Whether it's your mom, your roommate, or your entire group text of best friends – tell someone (1) where you're going, (2) who you're meeting, and (3) when you get home. If it makes you feel more comfortable, you can even send your person a screenshot of your date's profile for good measure. You can temporarily share your location (iPhone / Android) on your phone with your inner circle. Meeting a new person shouldn't be scary, and a healthy dose of preparation can make all the difference in helping you feel at ease.

  • Meet and stay in a public space
  • Meet for the first few times in a populated, public place — never at your home, your date’s home, or any other private location. If your date pressures you to go to a private location, end the date. Don’t lose cite of drinks or personal items: Know where your drink comes from and know where it is at all times — only accept drinks poured or served directly from the bartender or server. Many substances that are slipped into drinks to facilitate sexual assault are odorless, colorless, and tasteless. Also, keep your phone, purse, wallet, and anything containing personal information on you at all times. Sexual Health and Consent

  • Protect yourself
  • When used correctly and consistently, condoms can significantly reduce the risk of contracting and passing on Sexually Transmissible Infections like Human Immunodeficiency Virus (HIV). But, be aware of Sexually Transmissible Infections like herpes or human papillomavirus (HPV) that can be passed on through skin-to-skin contact. The risk of contracting some Sexually Transmissible Infections can be reduced through vaccination.

  • Know your status
  • Not all Sexually Transmissible Infections show symptoms, and you don’t want to be in the dark about your status. Stay on top of your health and prevent the spread of Sexually Transmissible Infections by getting tested regularly.

  • Talk about it
  • Communication is everything: Before you get physically intimate with a partner, talk about sexual health and Sexually Transmissible Infections testing. And be aware — in some places, it’s actually a crime to knowingly pass on a Sexually Transmissible Infection. Consent: All sexual activity must start with consent and should include ongoing check-ins with your partner. Verbal communication can help you and your partner ensure that you respect each other’s boundaries. Consent can be withdrawn at any time, and sex is never owed to anyone. Do not proceed if your partner seems uncomfortable or unsure, or if your partner is unable to consent due to the effects of drugs or alcohol.